Remember to love YOU.

It's amazing to me the CRAP that people tolerate in a relationship! Granted I've surely had my days where I have put up with some CRAP that I didn't need or want, but I've learned from that CRAP and I'm a better woman for it. In regards to whether or not I deserved the CRAP or not is a different subject. People will often tell you that you deserve better, and in 95% of cases I believe the same, BUT if you don't truly believe that and you are in a relationship and you continue to tolerate CRAP from your significant other even though time and time again they prove to you that they aren't going to change for you or anybody else then I almost believe if you stick with it and accept that from them, then you DO deserve what you are allowing your significant other to put you through. I know everybody won't agree with this nor do I care, but to me if you KEEP allowing someone to walk all over you, cheat on you, talk bad to you, put their hands on you inappropriately, etc. can you honestly say that YOU care about YOURSELF??? If we truly cared about ourselves then we wouldn't allow "bad" people to repeatedly do bad things to us. Gettin' mad and arguing about it is a waste of your time.......the paranoid feeling you get from the lack of trust that person has caused you is a waste of your time......that gut feeling you have when you see this and that and it leaves you with a nauseated feeling in the pit of your stomach is a waste of your time. Goin' through your significant others phone and e-mails to "catch" he/she is a waste of your time. If you really have gotten to THAT point with your significant other that you feel like you have to invade their privacy to "catch" them in an act of cheating, then your relationship is over anyways.......the likelyhood of you EVER trusting that person who has done you wrong is about zero. I'm one of the worst at workin' at something until I'm blue in the face, but dealing with those situations has made me realize the most important thing that I lost sight of...........ME. If someone is causing you emotional, mental, or physical harm, why stay? Do you really see yourself being with that person who causes this same CRAP over and over again for another 40-50 years??? Do you really think after all this time that he/she is goin' to step up to the plate and GROW THE HELL UP??? The likelyhood of that is slim to none I've found in my experiences until they are gosh darn ready to do so.........IF ever. Do yourself a favor and remember what should be your #1 priority...........YOU. You can love that "bad" person from a distance, but if you continue to love that person up close and personal and allow them to keep draggin' you through unhappiness and misery then you've lost sight of YOU and what you truly deserve.........HAPPINESS, SUCCESS, and GENUINE LOVE. Remember to love YOU always!