Monday, July 17, 2006
The background of one can explain so much
I learned something this weekend. You can have friends that are deeply troubled in different areas in there life. Yeah I know most people do know this about their friends. But do you ever sit back and really try to find out why one is crying, lashing out in anger, or even quiet. I got to a point this weekend that I just wanted to physically cry, hearing from some people about things that happened in their past that makes them who they are today. Whether it is making them scared of a certain type of person or if it gives them trust issues or has them afraid to love. Whatever it may be. My heart cried this weekend because sometimes the people you love have some very difficult situations that they have dealt with in life or are still dealing with to this day even as adults. They may not feel like they can tell anybody because those things that burden them are so ridiculously horrifying.My heart cried and my mind wonders about why the only thing that I can really feel I can do to help that person is to listen. Maybe give advice about a situation I may know nothing about in hopes that it may help ease the mind of another. To give them a BIG hug and let them know my shoulder is here for comfort, my ear is hear to listen, and my heart is here to love them. I realized how fortunate I was once again.
Wednesday, July 5, 2006
Friends and how are they a conflict of interest?
Category: Friends
In the line of life you will make friends and you will lose touch with friends. I have met many wonderful people through some of my really good friends and being the person I am have developed wonderful friendships with those people. The problem I run into is when you have friends that end up beefing. You then are trying not to be torn between the two as you get both sides of the puzzle and also trying not to take sides with either. Now if someone asks or somebody seems to fall out of line and they ask me for my opinion I will tell them what I think but I have always tried to make it a point that if someone in the group of friends is mad, to not just decide to be mad right along with them. Especially if the situation technically has nothing to do with me. I want to be there to comfort both sides if necessary but don't want to look as though I am being a traitor because I am choosing to be an adult and maintaining the friendship that I have invested in emotionally with both friends.I often get to a point where I have to say I don't want to know because the more false or accurate information you obtain from both sides you will naturally get your feelings and opinions flowing against one of your friends if not both. The point of this is I don't understand why some people expect you to dismiss one friend because they are beefing with them. That is yo biz so that means you need to handle it not me. I am simply here to be a shoulder, maybe some advice, and a good friend to you in the time of need not your alliance in the midst of war between you as my friend and my other friend.
In the line of life you will make friends and you will lose touch with friends. I have met many wonderful people through some of my really good friends and being the person I am have developed wonderful friendships with those people. The problem I run into is when you have friends that end up beefing. You then are trying not to be torn between the two as you get both sides of the puzzle and also trying not to take sides with either. Now if someone asks or somebody seems to fall out of line and they ask me for my opinion I will tell them what I think but I have always tried to make it a point that if someone in the group of friends is mad, to not just decide to be mad right along with them. Especially if the situation technically has nothing to do with me. I want to be there to comfort both sides if necessary but don't want to look as though I am being a traitor because I am choosing to be an adult and maintaining the friendship that I have invested in emotionally with both friends.I often get to a point where I have to say I don't want to know because the more false or accurate information you obtain from both sides you will naturally get your feelings and opinions flowing against one of your friends if not both. The point of this is I don't understand why some people expect you to dismiss one friend because they are beefing with them. That is yo biz so that means you need to handle it not me. I am simply here to be a shoulder, maybe some advice, and a good friend to you in the time of need not your alliance in the midst of war between you as my friend and my other friend.
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