Second Chances........should you get any?

Category: Romance and Relationships

There is always this thin line between love and hate they say and I believe it to be true. In the last year and a half I have had to make some decisions in my relationship and in the relationship with friends about whether once you cross a KNOWN line with my thoughts and heart if I should give you a second chance to prove you aren't the low down, stupid, childish, no good person I was provoked to think bad about at a point in time. My best friend Jessica told me at the beginning of this year that she heard a sermon in church talking about second chances and how we basically shouldn't just turn our shoulder away from someone who has wronged us in the past but to give a second chance. I believe her sharing that with me when she did was important in my life because I was struggling to FORGIVE and FORGET someone that had done me wrong and others very close to me wrong. I've even found myself with a man that I love with ALL of my heart that I couldn't stand last year because of some hurtful events that took place that broke the wonderful bond we had before. There are always decisions of giving second chances, but BOY ITS HARD! I've had to do that a lot in the last year and a half and I tell ya if it weren't for God giving me a second chance every day of my life I wouldn't even think twice about giving that person that hurt me another chance. Its way too easy to just say stay out of my life and pretend like they never existed.
The question though is should you always feel obligated to give second chances? If someone cheats on you with one of your friends, do you give them a second chance with a relationship and do you give that friend a second chance with frienship? If someone goes behind your back and sleeps with one of your ex's that they know would offend you, do you give them a second chance at frienship? If someone gets mad at you for something you don't even realize you did and just completely disassociates themself from your wonderful friendship, do you give them a second chance with frienship? The list can go on and on and on but where do we as adults no where to find the answers to the above? I'm still trying to figure it out myself.